Posting at SHINE

After almost 3 years of posting to this blog I've decided I am going to simplify my life and put all posts (for all my children!) on my "photography blog": SHINE!
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Sunday, July 27, 2008

what is working?

My friend Angel has posted about some things she is doing that are making life work for her to run her household of now 3 children. She has some great ideas and has issued a challenge to have her readers post their ideas. I am posting because I thought it might be nice to hear from one of the NOT so organized moms :) sadly I am in that category.

This is how a not naturally organized mom makes it somewhat work:

#1 - Matt is a very hands on father. He takes the big kids to the train when he goes in the morning, he picks up Isabella from gymnastics 3 nights a week after work, he loves to cook and clean too!

#2 - After bringing Tia home in March we decided that if we were ever going to have someone clean our house that NOW is the time. 2X/month they do our bathrooms and floors - I dust and do major tidying up the day before - this has made keeping the house clean so much easier!

#3 - When I had only one child my house was perfect! After the second one it was really clean and organized, with #3 it was pretty clean, and now I am learning to let go of perfection :) I feel really blessed to have 4 beautiful children - with them comes a challenge to keep a clean house. It will be empty and perfect again someday!

#4 - We do expect the kids to clean up after themselves and help us make it all work :) They make their beds in the morning and put put their clean clothes away. They each have a chore at dinnertime. They all help with the littler ones!

#5 - When I put Tia down for a nap I have to stay with her until she is asleep - this is when I read - usually my bible and do my Bible Study for the week, or I read a book. Using this time to read has made me really appreciate these 30 or so minutes I spend stroking her hair and being with her in the middle of the day. At night when it is too dark to read I listen to my radio station and try to spend my time praying.

#6 - I always try to Double Up. I focus on trying to get two things out of every task or errand.

- I try to take Elijah to preschool early enough that Tia can play and have some time around other kids.
- If Jonah(age 12) wants to play outside after school I ask him to take the little kids with him on the trampoline or in the front garden - he is learning to be responsible while I can get something done inside.
- I take the dog for a walk after the kids are in bed at night and get some exercise (and listen to music).
- When cleaning the kitchen after dinner I make lunches for the next day and use the leftovers.
- When I cook I let Elijah (5) help or do his messy crafts while I am in the kitchen with him. There are lots more and I'm sure every mom does all of these but trying to do Double Ups really helps me a LOT!

#7 - I do one persons laundry per day bringing it down in the morning - with the boys I throw all the colors in together (I cringe reading that too!) so far it hasn't hurt anything. For the girls I separate the pinks & reds and do them together. Matt's & mine I do together.

I have to say that reading Angel's and the other posts was a little intimidating but so inspiring! I have been busy organizing toys and my office since seeing some of those great ideas!


Lauren said...

Thanks for your ideas! I think that having an eternal perspective on messes is so important. Whatever works!

Somewhere In The Sun said...

You have some good tips! My kids make their beds every morning too. Even Olivia has to hand me her pillows and blankets. The boys unload the dishwasher, take out the trash and do 10 min. pick ups throughout the day. Training them early is the key.


daveandmarcy said...

Oh these are great tips! I too am blessed that my husband is a very hands-on Dad and that certainly is a big help!
I love the idea of doing one person's laundry each day. That is a FANTASTIC idea that I think would really work for me. I will give it a try! Laundry is my nemesis.
Marcy in Guam

Amy said...

Your #3 totally describes me! I'm glad I'm not the only one who went from perfect down to "just deciding to enjoy my kids" status!!!

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:11